There is a little boy that my 6 year old has known since preschool. All last year, he would tell her he was going to marry her. At first, I thought that it was so sweet but as time has gone on I have noticed something in myself that I wasn’t expecting.
This whole time, I have been telling my daughter that she should be nice to him and try to not hurt his feelings because he really likes her. These kids are now together for camp and apparently he said to her “Will you marry me tomorrow? What about next week? Next month?” and she says this caused her to yell “No!” and run away because she was embarrassed by his line of questioning. The same day, he also saw me at pickup and came over to tell me my daughter was his girlfriend.
Why am I telling my daughter to “Be nice” and “Don’t hurt his feelings”? Sure at 6 it is innocent enough, but this is clearly not the approach I would want her to take at say 16 with a boy who is making her uncomfortable with his proclamations of love and devotion…so why am I setting a precedence that goes against what I want her to go long term? And we sure aren’t doing that little boy any favors long term. Again, I realize these are 6 year olds, so a kick in the balls and a restraining order are probably not the way to go.
So the light bulb has gone off and I now have to regroup. Where is the chapter in the parenting manual that explains how to tell a 6 year old to handle persistent love interest? For now, I think we will stick her with screaming “No!” as she runs away from him.
Sorry, another light bulb just went off…here is a real life lesson we should teach our children. If a person makes you uncomfortable it is always ok to say “No!” and remove yourself from that situation as quickly as possible. Uggh, the answer was so simple…and it only took me 5 paragraphs to figure it out! Go Team!